Saturday, December 29, 2012

Teens, Sex, Marriage,

As I was chatting with a few friends, we came across this topic.
You know, I was kinda astonished and when you said that one-night stand is acceptable to you and sex before marriage is no big deal to you. And even more disappointed when you said that in case of 1+1=3, your choice will be abortion.

The world now is turning upside down, nowadays society, especially the youngster who thinks that they are being open-minded felt that there's nothing wrong with having sex before marriage(婚前性行为), living together as an unmarried couple (未婚同居), and having random sexual relationship with a complete stranger (一夜情).

This is sooooooo wrong. Okay
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I'm saying these to you because you're my friend, because I care for you, and that's what friends do, to tell them what is wrong, what is right.

This is what the bible tells us.
Let there be no sexual immorality, impurity or greed among you. Such sins have no place among God's people. Ephesians 5:3 
and so much more similar quotes like these.

And I believe, not only the Bible forbids us to do so, even Buddhist, Muslims and many other religions teach us not to indulge in sexual immorality.

Sometimes, people get influenced by environment, friends and media. They are overly exposed to these kind of scenes or news until they become numb, get used to it, and felt that there's no big deal about it. And it slowly became a norm of the society.
(Somehow I'm glad that Malaysia banned or filter obscene movies, or else, it could be worse because almost all the Americans' drama had these scenes.)

Most of you think that these kind of scenario only happen in open-minded country like America right?
Well, let me prove you wrong. 
People in Malaysia are doing exactly what the Americans are doing.

A non-exposed statistic shows that there's approximately 10 abortions per clinic everyday in SJ. 
Now imagine, how many abortions are done in one week ? 
How about 1 month? 1 year? 
And there's more than 50 clinics in SJ.
Don't forget some of the girls abort their child by taking abortion pills.
Now calculate it yourself.

This sad situation is actually happening in our very own country. 
We don't know about it because it's not shown in the news or media.
Come to think about how many innocent lives were killed just because of their sinful pleasures, 
this is just mind-blowing and horrible.

The real meaning of nowadays marriage is slowly fading.
Do you know why do brides wear white gown when they get married?
It's because white represents Purity.
Unfortunately, not many brides manage to achieve that.

I'm not going to talk about marriage, cause it gonna take ages to explain the whole thing.

In a nutshell, everything is interrelated. One thing leads to another.
Not taking seriously about sex before marriage > sexual immorality > infidelity > broken marriage > divorce.

And this is the reason why rate of divorce is getting higher and higher each year.
In US, 53% of marriages ended divorced. 
Which means, you'll find half of the married Americans are separated.

This is not the scenario that we wanted to see in our society, among our love ones.
I want to see my friends happily married until death do them apart.

You understand what I'm trying to say?
This is a christian diagram about relationship with God and your girlfriend/boyfriend/spouse.
As we are getting closer to God, we are actually getting close to one another at the same time.
This is one of the reasons why christian couples last longer than non-believers. 

I knew all of these because I joined a sex education seminar organized by an NGO.
Our education ministry should really consider implementing sex education into our syllabus.
We were showed a video which the people interviewed admitted how regretted they were for not listening to advices and ending up with bad marriages, broken relationships, unwanted pregnancy and STD (Sexually transmitted disease)

Please read my previous post. I find it very enlightening and shared it with you guys. 
It's a letter from your future husband. 
Really hope the teenagers will have some insights after reading this, especially you.

A letter from your future husband

Just a little something inspiring to share, this is a letter from my "future husband" which I got it from a sex education seminar called "No Apologies". Teenagers out there, please take you time to read.

To My Future Wife


Even though I don't know exactly who you'll be yet, I think of you often. I wonder how you're living your life now. It matters to me because how you live your life now determines the kind of woman I'll spend the rest of my life with.

Apparently for some bizarre reason, manhood doesn't come automatically for males. Some guys seem to spend their entire lives trying to "prove their manhood" - by hunting, playing sports, driving fast and unfortunately, by having sex. It seems rather strange to even to me that guys think having sex proves they are men. To me it just proves that they have reached puberty.

Becoming a woman is a much more complicated process. The funny thing is, even in this day and age; most girls want to marry guy who respects her sexuality. A girl doesn't like the idea of her future husband in the backseat with someone else, or of him being the subject of a sexual romance story in the locker room. They'll brag about guys like that, but they won't marry them. They want to marry a guy who has never "done it", who recognizes that sex speaks of forever, committed love - someone like me.

But why would I want to marry someone like that - someone who wants to marry a virgin but spends her life giving away her virginity freely? She's not a "real woman" in my eyes - She's an immature girl driven by insecurity, not love.

I want more from you.
I want you to respect your sexuality as much as I respect mine.
I want you to really learn to love.
Learning to love is learning to put the other first. A girl who messes around outside of marriage isn't putting the good of the other first. She's putting herself at risk of unwanted pregnancy and even some nasty diseases - diseases she can then pass to her husband and children.

A real woman doesn't let her desires control her actions. She controls her desires instead. I want you to develop self-control. That's important to me. I don't want to marry a woman who can't control herself. Women like that make unfaithful wives.

When I meet you, I want you to be a woman who has made a conscious decision to wait-out of love for our future family and commitment to marriage. I want you to be a real woman, who has developed the self-control, maturity and unselfishness that waiting brings. That will make you a better woman, and a better mother.

I've abstained from sex all these years, and saying "no" hasn't always been easy. I'm sure it wasn't always easy for you either. But it will make our marriage so much stronger. Sex will be our gift to each other. It will belong to us; not "us and everyone else we have been dated".

Thanks for waiting for me. I promise you won't regret it.

From your future husband

Friday, December 21, 2012








Thursday, December 20, 2012

FGT 1 Teen Youth camp 2012

Whew..........gosh, completely fatigue when reach home.
ALL glory goes to God.

Just wanna thank God for everything.
Months and months of prayer were finally answered.
Though we didn't reach our target which was 50 people, but we had a breakthrough in the number of participants.
This year's camp had the most camper joining, altogether 36 youths.
Just like Aaron shared, 少人有少人的好处,this actually allow the campers to have the opportunity to talk to each other and stay close within that 4 days.
So yeah, look at the bright side of it, maybe this is one of God's plan, is to let us to be connected.
But, I'm still hoping we can reach 40 next year =)

Being part of the organizer committee is quite tiring and challenging, especially when you're the game master.
When someone told you that your game was awesome and fun, that kind of feeling is indescribable.
You felt that your work is done, is not wasted, is appreciated.
And of course, wanted to thank Winston for some of his Running Man idea, Cindy and Anne for helping out.

This year, our youth felt so blessed and honored to have Pastor Alvin Tan to be our speaker.
He is, so far, the most talented, the most gifted, the funniest and cutest pastor I've ever seen.
The youth didn't fall asleep during his sermon.
Because he's too funny to be ignored.
He used a lot of metaphors,in mandarin we called it 比喻,to explain his sermon. 
Plus his funny actions and face expression, you just couldn't help laughing and pay attention despite being very tired. 
Before we met him, I heard that he's serving in the worship ministry, and is a pianist, or keyboardist to be exact. That time I was thinking, O gui lah, this time 献丑了。
结果真的献丑了 >.<!

Usually, we'll pray before we start the talk, there's one morning, he asked us to pray by singing a song. And he played the keyboard.
My jaws just dropped immediately, 简直是太强了!

My keyboard skills is just way too far from his standard. 简直是天和地。
Man, from that moment, I told myself, I gotta learn to improve and sharpen my piano skills.
Any worship conference/workshop/meeting, I must join. 
Honestly, I think that all of our youth should really learn to improve their skills.
The moment he lead us in our prayer with that song, I felt so touched by the holy spirit that I didn't realize tears welled up at the corner of my eyes, and dropped one by one.

Wanna thank God again that a few people who I've been praying for to join this camp.
Especially this 2 people, Paula and my cousin Brian. Both their Buddhist parents are very strict in allowing their children to join this kind of christian's activities. 
But with God, nothing is impossible. 
In the end, their parents said yes.
So yeah, nothing is impossible with God! 

Also wanna thank all the sponsors of the camp, or else, we won't have this many people to join.
I think most of the people join because it's free. Yeah, free for non-christian, half price for christian.
I think that our expenses is more than 10 thousand, way far our budget.
 But thanks to all these people, we are blessed and and the camp was successful. 
God bless them abundantly.

So I just let the pictures do the talking.

Topic: Maintaining The Blazing Flame
Theme: Malaysian Traditional Costume
Date : 16-19/12/12
Place : Borneo Paradise (a very nice place)

1st Day
Dinner prayer. (Obviously someone is not praying)

Praise and worship

 2nd day

While planning their strategies.

After finding their treasure in the swimming pool.

The Spider web game

A coffee drinking game. Idea by Winston which was inspired by the famous tv game show, Running Man.

Makan time!

Happy Birthday Pastor!

3rd Day
Running Man

1 down.

The hunters =)

Mer-man and sand castle (sadly, our group got the last place)

Talent Night. Our group.

Best Male Costume

Last Day

For those who didn't join, I'm sure you'll be regret by now seeing all these awesome pics.
Nvm, next year we still have, join us ya.

Oh, I donno what happen to my photos, it became like that when it's uploaded. 
And it takes like forever to be uploaded, I'm lazy to re-upload again, so i just let it be like that.

That's all, hope to see every camper again next year.
I'm anticipating for the next camp already, and guess what,
 I already have a few activities for camp running in my mind. 

Good night =)

Friday, December 14, 2012

Another youth camp

Hey guys, just got back from camp yesterday, was completely fatigued.

1st day 10/12/12, register at 1 pm.
Opening ceremony at 2.30 pm (half an hour late), continue with praise and worship and ice breaker.
We have 6 groups. I'm in group Blue.
and guess what, our leader is a 15 year old girl.
Let's name her C.
So, we need to discuss out group name, group's shout out, and the movie which we are going to film.

Oh, did I mention Movie?
The movie is for the 金钟奖, that's one of the reason I join this camp. Out of curiosity.
Every group needs to film a movie within 3 days, and then, during 金钟奖 ceremony, the short movie will be judged, best actor, actress etc will be chosen.

C is sitting next to me, the one with glasses. Blue is my group. But 3 of them are 导师,hence, not included in our group.
Ok let's move on.
So we were discussing the roles, I volunteered to be the camera man, coz I had my camera with me.
And, I didn't felt appropriate to be the director coz I'm a new comer, and C is the leader.
She asked the group for idea.
I gave C a few. (my head is always full of idea when it comes to drama),
She rejected me in a very pleasant and polite way(coz we just met).
Then, she came out with her own idea, which has no ending, and not complete like mine.

Later, our group start filming without a proper story, we only have the front part.
We're an unlucky group to have an uncooperative guy. He's the only guy in the group.
That's why we choose him to be the lead actor. Let's name him J.
J was very uncooperative and 死板。
C got very mad and choose another girl to be the lead actor.

C told me she wanted this, she wanted that.
So I followed her instructions.
But, she didn't quite like it. And asked me to re film (a few times).
Getting a lil frustrated, I told her, I'll let her do the filming.
But she insisted on me to do it.
She was so bossy, she wanted everything to be perfect.
I really wanted to tell her that we don't have a high tech camera and equipment nor that a group of professional actors. How to be perfect? But I didn't, since she's the leader, I'll just let her boss around.
We ended up filming the 1st simple scene for like 10+ times. Which was very tiring for me and the actors.

The next day, she had to prepare games for the afternoon telematch, so she told us this.
C : "我要你拍一个情景来比较两个角色,要特出一个是平凡女孩,一个有钱人。我现在不得空,我把一切交给你。"
She only told me to film it without a story line and 对白。
So I created a situation with 对白 for the characters, we got that scene filmed after a few attempts and practices.
And guess what, she didn't like it.
This time, she rejected me in a rude way.
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I was so furious that time. But I remain silent.
Then, she told us a scene and asked us to film according to her story line.

Our group left 5 people, so another boy was added.
Let's name him W.
Both J and W were very uncooperative.
They didn't want to film, they didn't want to play water games, they didn't want to wash the plates.
Every time during devotion, when they were asked to share something, they just remain silent.
They just wouldn't want to think, when they were asked by our leader's leader, they just reply donno. eye see!

After the telematch, I was so tired and headache that I left the last game(which only require 1 person to play), took a quick bath and went to sleep.
My biological was messed up again. Hence, the night before, I couldn't sleep at all!
I think that C got furious when she saw me sleeping instead of filming.
Coz before that, she warned us not to rest after the telematch but continue filming without her.

After 1 hour + of sleeping, I woke up and got better.
I asked for panadols. Then I join the team with the filming.
She was not there, another team's leader (which was also 15 years old) directed us.
Let's call her S.
S said C was very angry with us. C said we were not cooperative wah. That's why S came and help us out.
Please lah, if I'm not cooperative, I wouldn't have lend you my camera, I wouldn't have given you so many rejected ideas, I would have stop filming for your group.

The reason she said we are not cooperative is because we couldn't film what she wanted.
Plus there are 2 very uncooperative guy in our group who are not willing to do anything.

Later, she came and join us. She didn't want to look at me and talked to us in a rude way.
The 2 guys oso came and join us. (I think they got brainwashed by the youth leader.)
I think she discovered that I took panadols, her tone suddenly change and told me to rest.
Better, I don't have to take orders from her.
Honestly, I don't like to be ordered to do things. Especially from a 15 year old girl who became so bossy and arrogant.

So I took another 1 hour nap until dinner.
After praise and worship, we continue to film.
Oh, I really got bored with this filming.
The whole camp was all about filming.
Last time, the whole camp was all about cooking, coz we need to cook every meal. And each meal took us about 3 hours. All the time just wasted like that. Now all the time wasted on filming and listening to bossy leader.

So, this time, I let C to film it herself.
10.30pm, we all gathered at the hall for group devotion until 11pm.
Talking about devotion, C couldn't lead us at all. All she asked was, 你有什么东西要分享的吗?
The 1st devotion still ok, and I did praised her for that. Coz I was kinda amazed that a 15 year old girl can lead us in devotion. But after the 2nd and 3rd one, Oh no....*face palm*, she herself didn't understand the devotion text. And she always pull that long face, I don't like to see that.
This is so far the biggest mistake done by the committee of the camp, they chose a too young leader to lead us. Luckily, on the 3rd devotion is the youth leader himself lead us. Or else, we'll be in a MCC state.

11pm +, C started to edit the movie, she asked me to film the rest and insisted to finish it by that night.
So, Me, bringing 2 other team members, continue to film the movie.
Again, I created a scene and discussed the 对白with them.
There's a girl from other team member came to see and help us.
She asked us not to blame our leader wah, coz she is very stressful wah.

I don't think it's the stress problem, the main problem is, she didn't communicate well with her team member.
She only knows how to order people to do things according to HER way.
And won't listen to her group member's suggestions and opinion.

1 team member scared C will not like the scene I created again, and said ask her suggestion first.
I told her that C will not get satisfied everything we do, we can't do it her way.
And I don't think she will reject what we film, coz this is our last chance to film. And there's a lot more editing for her to do.
So 12pm +, finally, we got it done!

The 3rd day after lunch, we had this 金钟奖颁奖典礼。
2 MCs of the day.

All the group's movie was shown.

When I saw our movie, I was fiendishly disappointed!
She muted mostly the scene we film and put background music.

All our efforts of discussing, practicing the 对白 was wasted like that.
If you don't want to have any 对白,just tell us lah. Then we no need to think of the conversation and practice, which was very time consuming.
This whole filming thing is such a failure and disappointing.

All the other groups won more than 1 awards.
There are,最佳男女主角,最佳人气男女演员,最佳导演,最佳音响,最佳剪接,最佳男女配角,最佳kelefeh 和最佳影片。
But then, thank God that our group at least won one award.
Our lead actress won 最佳女主角。

The newcomers group. 

Best actress and actor.

All her hard work had paid off. And she thanked me for accompanying her to practice and film until midnight.

After that, we had this 分享午会。
Which everyone make a big circle, sit down and start writing on everyone's 留言板。
I wrote everything I need to write on my leader's 留言板, and that 2 uncooperative guys.

Someone actually wrote this on my 留言板。So brave and funny XD.

I would rate the camp as 5/10.
The speaker was good, the activities were quite fun.
The food was quite ok, only the breakfast not ok, we only had bread and vico for breakfast for 2 days,
all the boys complain not enough to eat, at least should have fried mee hun or fried mee.
They forgot to mention the rules and regulations of the camp until 2nd day.
Their youth are not friendly. They just hang around together with their people and left the newcomers alone.
Their time management was really bad. Every activities was late.
The 金钟奖颁奖典礼did not went well, they have a lot of technical problem, so much time wasted.
Their 2 MC not really good, especially my leader. Yes, she is one of the MC.
The 分享午会also very time consuming.
We should go back at 4pm. But they haven't end until 5.30pm, I requested to go home first coz I had caroling after that.

They really need to improve on their time management.
Last time I joined also like that.

All in all, it was a brand new experience for me. Especially this filming thingy.
Now I know what is meant by their 金钟奖. Next time if I see this thing in their activities list and still hold it at the same place, I won't join anymore.